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Showing posts with label patience. Show all posts
Showing posts with label patience. Show all posts

Sunday, August 20, 2017

What teaching has taught me!

There are those who seek knowledge for the sake of knowledge; that is curiosity. There are those who seek knowledge to be known by others; that is vanity. There are others who seek knowledge in order to serve; that is love.

St. Bernard of  Clairvaux


Being a mother already makes you a teacher, someone told me once! How true! We parents are the first teachers of our children. We dedicate our lives to the formation of our kid's character, skills, and habits, but at times we go on with life not being aware of it. Our life and experiences are the teaching tools we equip our little ones to face the world in all its forms. We are molding their little souls in every action, word, and deed; we are marking a print on their innocent spirits as they grow. Being a homeschooler is what I see as an extension of that arduous labor of motherhood; in a different context, yes! but in the same spectrum of the mission.


Looking back at my old teacher self, I could clearly see how I evolved and changed my teaching style. I started you may say... stiff. I played safe and limited our learning to the textbooks at first. I was not being as creative and resourceful as I should back then, I had to learn to expand my options and get to the kids level to make learning appealing. Without a degree in education, any kind of tool is a complete discovery and revelation, yes! crafting a method of teaching was the way to communicate and introduce concepts and skills. This new language had to be experienced, not planned. Homeschool was an open invitation to get to know my kid's way of learning and I was on the right track to discover the new and many ways to help them achieve milestones in their own unique way.

The best push to break free as a homeschool mom was to my surprise: obstacles! you heard right, obstacles are frustrating indeed, but they are a wake-up call to creativity. When my daughter began to learn addition and subtraction even the clock we hit various bumps, we had to overcome. I tried the teacher manual's  way, my way, dad's way, but nope! none work, so what then? At first pure frustration and the overwhelming feeling of being stuck and powerless, but then came:  research!

And with research, my biggest weapons:

  • Youtube videos
  • Pinterest
  • Homeschool blogs


Maybe it sounds naive and obsolete, but here is where I found the truth that underlined learning for my daughter: it was Visual and practical. My daughter in her early beginnings guided me to understand simplicity. Let me elaborate: The first mistake I made for sure, was to try to box, to limit, education to only a pile of books,  yes! I love books and all knowledge is logged in a good book, but my kid continued to struggle with the concepts. She advanced, for sure, but she wasn't answering consciously. She began to answer by memory, systematically, not really comprehending what she was learning.  So, I understood then, that I had to make a stop and go back to the basics, the simple introduction, the practical approach and then when she grasped it, we could move on. I wanted her to learn not just to score!

I am a visual learner as my daughter, but contrary in the style, I need my learning to be comprehensive, it has to make sense to me before it sticks; for her, it has to stick before it makes sense to her! ufff I said it! I hope it made sense, Because believe me, this was key for me to change "my way" and focus on hers once and for all. Here, exactly here, is where I referred before as the language we had to learn to speak from now on. 

The resources mentioned above opened up for me new ways that could support the structure of our curriculum, we had a good frame but now, we had to make it practical. Here is worth to mention, our curriculum invites to expand the lessons with resources to enrich teaching, but sometimes their suggestions are not enough and it is hard to come up with new ones that are effective for your particular child. Thankfully I became familiar with the Montessori method, thanks to Pinterest. Here I was able to include new materials and activities that helped my children explore with their senses all the concepts they were being introduced. I must say: this great resource changed my whole perspective about teaching, in a way made me reflect that it has been there all along. We, people, hear many beautiful words and teachings but it just slips us by. Only until we hear and witness a story we are inspired to model, it stays with us as learning lesson hard to forget. We learn better by experience not by theory alone. They have to go hand by hand in school matters and in life in general.




I have been so far collecting the steps of homeschooling: The why we chose to do it here, the curriculum here, and the room we created here, but without a doubt, this step: the teaching journey of a mother, is the richest and most challenging of all. I have learned to get rid of expectations, to become more patient, to celebrate wins and losses, to be perseverant, to embrace structure as well as hands-on experiences, but most importantly I have learned to constantly reinvent myself and adjust to my kid's needs as they go, unlocking resources and being very observant of my kid's clues on their individual process of learning. 



My other kids had brought to my attention another set of needs that brought me to be flexible, for example. My boy a difference to the girls doesn't enjoy sitting at a desk for a period of time, he likes to bounce, run and fiddle, he is my "jumping bean", so I became aware of it and adjusted his desk time only for crafts and handwriting. I allow him to change scenarios for other subjects.  He also loves stories even in Math and funny ones, so whenever we are doing Math we bring our counters and I make up for him funny scenarios to help him remember what we have learned. He is lucky I am sort of a storyteller, it works just fine! He also is very sensorial and loves manipulatives, from flashlights to play dough, to pipe cleaners, to army people to add and subtract in battle hehehe 😄. He surely makes me go the extra mile of fun!




Resources such as posters, plays, salt maps, experiments, inventions, allowed my kids to improve retention. My girls are very artistic and love to color, draw and craft away their subjects! It surely forces us to have lengthy weeks, but they do it with such a joy and enthusiasm that I don't mind it at all. 



Again I want them to learn not to score. I continue to be attentive to my kid's abilities and strengths and from there I research online the best strategies to complement our learning experience. I have become a more relaxed and open minded mom and teacher, my biggest achievement has been without a doubt to learn and enrich from difficulty and obstacles and to get to know my kids in a more deeper and compassionate level. 

Understanding my kid's way to learn is a journey of love, of sacrificing my way for what it works for them, it helps me to celebrate, never to compare and to build on their strengths instead of pushing on my agenda. 

Teaching has taught me! I evolved from trying to plan learning to live learning. I continue to evolve as a mother into a teacher and as a teacher into a mother. Hand by hand education meets reason and faith. Love and service. Fear and trust.

















 

Saturday, July 29, 2017

The season of waiting...




Half way there! boy! it feels forever, but at the same time its going by so swiftly ...

Pregnancy is what we know as the season of waiting! is the season of preparation, to make room for your little gift that soon will fill your world with the most wonderful memories, but also for me is that season where everything seems upside down. For example, my first trimester is brutal! the morning sickness lasts about...well... lets see... the whole 9 months, and the anemia drops me so low,  that I feel I have no energy to do anything! and not to mention  my smell powers, that isolate me from the world! yes, this scenario my friends, seem to be the constant in every single of my pregnancies. Did I mentioned it before? this, will be my fifth? well now, I have so much to do and all those body changes and adjustments sort of slow me down and here is where my season of waiting starts to appear so long and tedious.

I know of many moms having a great time during their pregnancy, and they have what we call: the glow! you know? the glow? ahhh I wish I had that glow...  It takes me almost until the sixth month to be back in society hahaha, and that's where I am right now, so I am finally starting to see the light.  It isn't easy for me to slow down, I am very active and love to be outside doing fun things with the kids, plus the homeschool comes into play, so when pregnancy issues show up, I feel pulled back.

Recently I have been meditating on being busy in my last post here and also in dealing with discouragement here, but I found a beautiful truth in this season of waiting. Let me show you. As I feel overwhelmed by all those symptoms, I forget at times the marvelous miracle that is taking place in my body, the wonders of life have been granted generously by God to me and here I am deliberately getting lost only in the physical experience.

When I have to do "sofa rest" by doctor orders, I have the time to think and take care of me, and also the time to experience my baby. I can look closely to what is happening around with my older kids. I look at them in detail their faces, I  study their voices and hear in the background their interesting conversations developing. You see? I have been granted a season to freeze time and really enjoy the life around me and inside me.

Pregnancy brings so much that I seem to miss it, it brings me tenderness so I can  stop being strong for a while, It allows others to take over and practice charity by helping me and comforting me while simultaneously brings me humility to accept the help and surrender to my fragile state. It grants me from time to time vulnerability so I can accept me in the good and in the bad, when I am productive and when I am not. It offers me consciousness of healthy choices for me and the baby, such as diet, sleep and rest. Caring of me is a struggle to maintain, so this season slows the pace allowing me to see these things. At last it brings patience, to my anxious and rushed planning making lifestyle, pregnancy is unpredictable and that teaches you patience with yourself and time.

This time is a flashback, I now see how quickly time goes by when I realize how much my other kids have grown, and see it all in a wide view, I see how my season of waiting invites me to appreciate, life, health, love, moments, to enjoy every instant and this baby on the making as the greatest miracle! I am ready to welcome my baby, I am ready to take life as it comes, I keep waiting for more blessings, and as a picture shots "I am keeping all these things in my heart" like our Heavenly mother did, I will learn to say: Fiat "let it be done according to Your will"

One day at the time is how this season of waiting unfolds the most beautiful truths; pregnancy can be overwhelming, but above it all, is a call to witness life, love and sacrifice in its maximum expression. Don't feel afraid to discover your fears during pregnancy and your vulnerabilities, open to receive and to learn, all of this is a journey, meant to be lived, worth to be experienced!


To my kids:
Please just...
Never grow up!